I had a revelation on Saturday night! Maybe some of you who have been married a long time will already know this, but for me it was pretty profound! I’m a guy with some pretty basic desires (sex, food, affirmation – and in that order too). ;-)
I’m always hoping that Sherri will intuit my needs and take care of me. Now, keep in mind that Sherri is a stay-at-home mom with “The Ladies” (ages 4, 2, and 1) AND she’s pregnant with #4 (read - tired!!!)!!!!!
The other night God kind of leaned into me (actually He checked me pretty hard)! I begin thinking… Who ever intuits Sherri’s needs? Who ever thinks about what she wants (beyond the basics – help changing diapers, etc.)?
All she does is give to “The Ladies” all day long and then I come home with my trinity of desires (sex, food, affirmation). That night I decided that I was going to start thinking about what she wants (what are her secret hopes?) and making every effort to fulfill them! It has started… (and I realize that her trinity does not look like mine!) 
I want Sherri to look forward to when I come home! I want her to know that someone is thinking about what she needs and hopes for, and I want her to know that that ”someone” is me.
Here’s to the women I love!!!
Funny you should write this today..similar thoughts as a parent all morning. After experiencing a “teen/preteen” weekend and Monday morning, (translation–Mom doesn’t have a clue and we need to let her know that and straighten her out!), I realized that I have been focusing a lot of energy on what I want and not always looking at what my guys need.
My 17 year old needs to be more independent, my 14 year old needs his ways of “chilling”, and my 11 year old…well, still working on that one! Think it’s time to step back and figure out what we all want and what each of us needs.
Sounds like dinner conversation tonight…
Paul,
Thanks for sharing that revelation!! I wish more men would have the same one (I can think of one in particular)! Makes me alittle jealous of Sherri, but she soooo deserves it. Good for you and I hope you continue to feel this way about your lovely wife! You’ll be amazed at the affects it has on her, and I’m sure you’ll reap some “rewards” yourself. The more we receive from our husbands, the more we have to give him back!!