Tomato arm

Living in a house with five ladies is not for the weak, so I regularly go to the gym.

I go to the gym for a few reasons:

  1. Someday my little ladies are going to be big ladies and there’s gonna be boys. I may need to whoop some tail so I want to be ready. Going to the gym is a pro-active move on my part.
  2. I realize that when I exercise, every other part of my life seems to work out better! I’m a better man, husband, father, pastor, and friend when I’m feeling good.
  3. I want Sherri to like how I look.

I, like every other man, do the occassional flex and invite “The Ladies” to the “GUN SHOW!” I have even showed the ladies how to do their own flexing and show off their guns!

The other day I was putting on a “gun show” for the ladies and Reagan said, “Dad, you’ve got a tomato in your arm!” I have no clue how she figured the bump was a tomato… but from that point on she’s been asking to see the tomatoes!

I’m not sure I like the idea of my arms being compared to tomatoes! I think I’ll stick with “guns.”

An open letter to my church

Hello my friends.

Our time together is quickly coming to an end and I want to reflect on this… out loud.

Last night at Thursdays, Anthony and I taught together and served communion together for the last time.

Tonight many of us will spend the evening together at the “Farewell to the Pastors” gala.

On Saturday I will say goodbye to many of you. And on Sunday I will say goodbye to the rest of you.

Some of us will say goodbye for a season, but many of us will say goodbye for the final time.

I’m not terribly good at goodbyes. I find myself wanting to linger: eat one more dinner, play one more game,  have one more meeting, give one more hug…

I want you all to know that I love you.

I thank you for allowing me the honor of being your pastor these last few years.

We’ve successfully navigated some significant changes in these last couple of years:

  • we moved into a new church building
  • our average weekend attendance has increased by over 200 people
  • we have seen multiple staffing changes
  • we created a new organizational/leadership structure
  • we’ve seen a renewed focus on evangelism
  • etc.

As with all change there were multiple levels of excitement, fear, understanding, misunderstanding, etc., and yet here we are…  still loving, growing, and moving ahead!

We’ve laughed together and cried together. We’ve hugged and hit one another. We’ve asked forgiveness and forgiven one another. We’ve walked through the valley of the shadow of death together and celebrated new life together. We’ve done life together!

We’ve consistently moved ahead, sometimes stumbling and sometimes running. Sometimes we went to slow and sometimes we went to fast. At the end of the day I realize we’ve been shaped by one another… you by me and me by you, and that’s what families do.

To my church family…

  • Thanks for the friends you gave me and my family.
  • Thanks for the lessons you taught me.
  • Thanks for being the first to welcome two of my four “Ladies” into the world, and for loving the others like your own.
  • Thanks for entrusting me with the high honor of being called your pastor.

As we prepare to say what will be the final “goodbye” for many of us I think about the words of St. Paul in Acts 20:24, “My life is worth nothing unless I use it for doing the work assigned me by the Lord Jesus – the work of telling others the good news about God’s love and wonderful kindness.”

God has called me and I must go, but the knowledge that I am answering God’s call does not eliminate the sadness I feel as we prepare to say our final goodbyes.

So I say to you, my church family, as we prepare to say our final goodbyes thank you friends for all the memories. I will carry you in my heart for the rest of my life.

Your servant in Christ,

Paul

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Five practices for working with a ministry team

As I wrap up my time here at Northgate I want to share a few things that have worked well for our ministry team.

The top five lessons that I will take with me when working with a ministry team…

  • The “Three C’s” of a team. When I look for a team member I look for: character, competence, and chemistry. Each of these characteristics is critical if the team is to function at full capacity. The first two (character and competence) are kind of “givens” (at least they should be). The issue of chemistry, however, is one that has often been overlooked… perhaps to the detriment of many teams. My ideal team is one that would choose to “hang out with each other on their day off.” When you have a team that enjoys one another the possibility of high-impact ministry is increased significantly. WHO is on your team will play a significant part in determining WHAT your team does so pick your team carefully!
  • Off-site planning. As a leadership team, our most effective thinking/planning was done off-site! We were able to accomplish more in a day away than we were in multiple days/meetings “on-site.” We had three regularly schedule “away” times:
    • Monthly worship planning – Every month we would leave the church for a day to pray, plan, evaluate, adjust, and prepare for the weekend worship experiences.  Typically this would happen in one of our homes and was scheduled from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Though it didn’t always go this long… it was ALWAYS a valuable meeting
    • Bi-Monthly “Laugh” events – Every other month we (i.e. the Management Team) would leave the church for a day, just to “play.” Laughing together is a critical part of developing chemistry and so we invested in laughter. We did everything from ice-skating to laser tag!
    • Quarterly retreats – Every quarter the Management Team would leave on a Sunday night and stay at a cabin/hotel through the following evening. During this time we would tackle ONE BIG ITEM (e.g. Sermon planning; articulation of our core values, etc.). These retreats were some of our best times together and the decisions made here shaped and will continue to shape the church for years to come.
  • Laugh and Learn together. I am persuaded that a team that is learning and laughing together will be a better team leading a better organization. In order to achieve this we scheduled both:
    • Laughing together – I have already talked about this, so let me add one more thing and I’ll be done! We took turns scheduling the “Laugh” event. This kept the event fresh and fun.
    • Learning together – Every month we would read through and discuss a book together. We took turns picking the book, so again we experienced diversity in our learning. Some books read (Revolution by George Barna; Choosing to Cheat by Andy Stanley; The Emotionally Healthy Church by Peter Scazzero; Growth by Accident, Death by Planning by Bob Whitesel; A Tale of Three Kings by Gene Edwards). Learning together helped us to wrestle with the same ideas together, use similar language when talking about issues, and identify strengths, weaknesses, threats, and opportunities in our church, based on what we were learning.
  • Evaluations. We regularly evaluated what we were doing. If I could do it over I would work harder on follow-up… but that’s for another post! We evaluated:
    • Ourselves. We had bi-annual staff evaluations and monthly “Face-Time” meetings. You can read more about this here.
    • Our ministry effectiveness. We created a “Dashboard” that allowed us to review the “essentials” of the ministry here at Northgate: # of people saved; # of people in groups; # of people serving; attendance; and income. You can read more about this concept here.
  • Visit other churches. I asked the staff to “get out of here” at least once per quarter, and go to another church! I did this for three reasons:
    • We need to remember what it feels like to be a “stranger” “visitor” or whatever else you want to call it! I want our staff to know what our guests are feeling when they walk into our church for the first time!
    • Let’s learn what we can from other churches! It was always exciting when the staff would return with some great idea to implement at our church! We even sent our head usher to another church so that he could observe how their ushers functioned and we bought him and his family lunch that day too! (Take care of your volunteers!)
    • Get some “atta boys”! It’s affirming when someone comes back from another church and says, “We’re doing a good job with our kids ministry, etc.”

So there they are, five practices that have worked well for us these last couple of years.

The Big Idea…

Yesterday I participated in a webinar… a first for me.

The learning point was “creating a BIG IDEA” for the weekend/church experience.

My buddy Bill blogged about it here.

The bottom line… most presentations have too much information, and too much information compromises comprehension and retention! (sorry about the hokey rhymes!)

Consider what could happen if we would place MORE emphasis on LESS information!

Triple bottom line (Reflections from, Leading at a Higher Level)

When Blanchard speaks… leaders listen! Some of the highlights from Leading at a Higher Level

  • “In high performing organizations, everyone’s energy is focused on not just one bottom line, but three bottom lines – being the provider of choice, the employer of choice, and the investment of choice. This triple bottom line is the right target and can make the difference between mediocrity and greatness.”
  • What would happen if the church had a triple bottom line:
    • To provide the best weekend experience! We are in competition for people’s attention! We compete against organizations with more money (e.g. organized sports) and groups with more relational influence (e.g. family; fishing buddies). If we are going to be effective we MUST be innovative and strategic in our efforts to bring people to Jesus! This starts with PRAYER… moves to PLANNING… which leads to IMPLEMENTATION… followed by EVALUATION and ADJUSTMENT!
    • To be the best place to work! It happens regularly but not coincidentally… people leave the business and government sectors to serve in the social sector (e.g. the church)… not because the money is greater, but because the mission is greater! When the church is functioning at full capacity, it is the hope of the world and the best place to engage your energy! What would happen if every church set out to be the best place to be employed?
    • To be the best place to give resources! People regularly give money, time, and knowledge away as an act of charity. BUT they only give it to organizations they believe in… organizations that are effectively accomplishing their mission! What would happen if the local church became so effective in her mission of introducing life-transformation into our local and global cultures that people saw the church as the best investment?

The journey continues…

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