Waddup

Some more “waddup”… OK, wait a minute! For those of you who do not know what “Waddup” is… it is slang for “What is up” more commonly stated as “What’s up” and in some contexts stated as “Waddup.” And now you know the rest of the story. ;-)
Anyhoo… some “Waddup” in our lives these days…

  • Working on a new blog for the upcoming sermon series at Mountain Lake myscandalust.com
  • Today I’m going to be “gettin some trainin” on one of the premier databases in the church world – Fellowship One.
  • Yesterday we (i.e. the ministry team) had some “play time” on the river! I’m enjoying working with these guys! They work hard and play hard… and the results are there to prove it!
  • Yesterday I got to spend some time with Bill Reichart… a pastor I met in the blogosphere before I met face to face.
  • This week I confirmed the first team member for our new church! I wish I could tell you who… but I can’t! What I can say is that this person is going to be leading our Kids/Students ministries and helping with Guest services! I’m EXCITED about what God is doing!
  • This weekend I am going to meet another blogosphere friend face to face… Nathan Rice.
  • Tomorrow is Dallas’ second birthday and we’re going to the zoo! (Pictures to follow).

This is a GREAT life!

Navy and denominations… there are some similarities!

Richard Marcinko, founder of Seal Team Six, was always battling Naval bureaucracy. He had the heart/mind of a warrior while the bureaucrats had the mind of… well, bureaucrats.

Once while venting his frustration to a superior who “got it” he received some insightful feedback… feedback that applies in most organizational contexts.

The superior said, “Large organizations have trouble dealing with unprecedented efforts. They like going by the book. They live by a set of hard-and-fast rules. But in your case, Dick, there is no book. In Spec War, there are no rules – or at least no rules that are comprehensible to anybody whose whole career has been spent thinking conventionally.”

The superior then made reference to a particularly anal, “By the books” administrator that had been giving Dick Marcinko a hard time. “Ted [the anal officer] probably views you the same way staff officers look at anything or anybody who’s out of the ordinary – as some rogue elephant trampling all over his turf. He deals with your requests the same way he handles memos about ordering more toilet paper or ballpoint pens. People like that have no vision – they can’t see why the mission you’ve been assigned gives you any priority. They want you to wait in line with the rest of the [people].”

Let me make some application. In the church world denominations are the “large organizations.”

Innovative, creative, mission-driven pastors and church leaders often feel the same frustration with denominational bureaucracies that Marckinko felt with the naval bureaucracy… handcuffed, restrained, sat-on, etc.

Denominations MUST recognize that times are changing and consequently what is needed is the heart/mind of warriors… leaders who will lead “unprecedented efforts.”The people/leaders who are on the front lines doing the work that the mission calls for must be heard and accommodated to the fullest extent possible!

David Putman and Ed Stetzer, in their book Breaking the Missional Code, identify “four core issues” that all denominations must grapple with if they are going to maintain influence in this new era of church:

  • What is their basis for cooperation? If specific programs, methods, etc. are the “glue” of the denomination then it is most likely seen it’s better days. Those denominations, however, that are defined by a set of core values and mission are most likely to be a force in the church of the future.
  • How effectively will they stay out of the headlines as champions of things that do not matter? I recently heard a “spot” on the radio by a pastor who was fighting and leading a campaign against establishments that serve alcohol on Sunday! Give me a freaking break! Is that what you want to be known for… the dude that doesn’t want us to drink on Sunday. Denominations that put their “stake” down on Mt. Silly will continuously contend with decline.
  • How effective are they at developing meaningful partnerships with churches, networks, and parachurch organizations? The Kingdom of God is bigger than a denomination and the denomination that “gets” this and shares resources (intellectual, personnel, financial, etc.) with other Kingdom-minded organizations will be an organization that maximizes its influence capital in the years to come.
  • How effective are they at adding value to the mission of the church? Denominations that are going to be effective must begin viewing themselves as resource centers rather than “command central.”

The Navy and many denominations (not to mention many secular organizations as well) are struggling to streamline and even eliminate bureaucratic structures that worked in the past. In today’s fast-moving, ever-changing world we must give more credence to “the guys on the ground” and allow the mission to determine the course of action rather than some policy written in days past.

Disclaimer: there are some non-negotiables on this mission… in this case of the church, the Scriptures stand as our non-negotiables.

Three tips for praying better…

I know that prayer is an important critical part of our spiritual development and yet sometimes I find that I get a little “crusty” in my prayer life… a little ritualistic… a little mindless in my repetition!

I’m always looking for ways to re-invigorate my prayer life.

A few things that have been working for me lately…

  • Praying with my checkbook in my lap. They always say, “If you want to know someone’s priorities, check out their calendar and their checkbook.” That makes sense to me, so as I pray through my calendar I’m also putting my checkbook on my lap. I find that this is helping me in a couple ways: 1) It reminds me regularly that what I have is not mine! It’s His and I’m expected to manage it well! 2) It keeps me aware of spending habits.

Because the calendar and the checkbook reflect my pattern of living, this is a great way to review my life in the presence of God. Sometimes we celebrate and sometimes I feel like a jerk. But it’s always a good thing in the presence of a loving Father!

The final tip that is working for me these days is…

  • Blogging. This blog is my journal. When I read, pray, travel, etc. I keep a notebook with me and make observations. Often those observations end up right here so that I can look back on them but also so that you can travel with me. I know that some of this stuff is pretty basic for some of you, but it’s my life and I’m traveling out. I kind of like looking back over what God has done and is doing in my life and I hope that it challenges, reminds, and teaches you as you travel with me!

Thanks again for taking this journey called life with me!

The house

Today we’re having an open house at our house in NY.

It’d be nice to sell this puppy!

Hey, Sherri and I have been talking about the “stuff” that we call “ours.” We’ve really changed how we think about “our stuff.”

Scriptures like this have really helped to change our thinking.

The other day Sherri said something that made a lot of sense to me (this happens frequently). She said, “If God wants to spend His money paying for a house we’re not living in then it’s okay. We just need to trust Him.” Dang… that girl can PREACH!

Our “take” now is, we will manage carefully what has been entrusted to us. God called us to New York and He has called us to plant a church. He has always taken care of us and He will continue to do so. Our job is to hear Him, obey Him, and then trust Him with the “stuff” of life… after all it’s His!

So all of this to say, please pray that the house sells and that either way we continue to learn how to be better managers of the “stuff” that God entrusts to our care.

Thanks for traveling with us on this journey!

Church planter/Warrior

I picked up a book yesterday that I can’t put down! The Rogue Warrior by Richard Marcinko is the story of the founder of SEAL team Six… an elite counter-terrorism unit founded by Marcinko.

This is a man’s read! It makes me want to run through the jungle and jump on someone after I’ve swam across a river to reach the jungle! If your testosterone levels aren’t surging as you read this book… you’re a woman!

Seriously, before giving my life to Christ my single dream was to be a soldier. I started out on the path to that dream, but God sidelined me in an accident in which He broke my knee. I received a medical/honorable discharge from the military as a result of my broken knee. Consequently, I can never be a soldier again. Never.

I have this burning in my heart. A desire to conquer, a desire to expand territory, a desire to do things that others will look on and say… “What the heck is he thinking?” A desire to honor my Leader, a desire to cut through the “underbrush” and make it safe for others to follow… maybe that’s why I’m on this journey to be a church planter ’cause all of these desires are being fulfilled! It’s crazy and I’m only a little bit into it!

Need a testosterone surge? Read this book and then follow the voice of God!

CAVEAT: this book alone will only surge your testosterone, it is not likely to make you want to follow God… you’ll have to decide to do that on your own.

Some church planter “waddup”

Just some “Waddup” in our lives these days:

  • We (Jeff, the other church planter in residence) and I have been spending quite a bit of time praying about and researching locations for potential church plants. I’d love your prayer support as we work through this.
  • I’ve been spending a lot of time working on raising funds to support this mission. This includes making calls, writing letters, etc. This whole process is a make or break process. If you aren’t confident of your calling then there’s no way that you could maintain integrity and ask people to fund it.
  • I am praying and thinking about who I want to launch this new church with me.

So, we’re busy these days, but I’m loving it! I was made to do this!

Time management plan

A few things that help me capitalize on “spare” moments…

Every morning develop and “pack up”:

  •  a list of calls to make (names and numbers)
  • a book to read
  • a prayer to pray
  • a problem to solve

Whether you’re waiting for someone at a restaurant, waiting in the Doctor’s office, or stuck in traffic you can always take advantage of these “spare” moments with the above tools!

One more thought…

What happens before 7 determines what happens after 7!

When you start your day early you get the most out of it!

Don’t miss the value in the “spare” moments!

Time Management

Time is a gift from God that everyone receives in exact proportion!

Recently reading from Pushing to the Front by Orison Swett Marden I found some great quotes on the idea of time management:

  • “He who hoards and turns to account all odd minutes, half hours, unexpected holidays, gaps ‘between times,’ and chasms of waiting for unpunctual persons, achieves results which astonish those who have not mastered this most valuable secret.”
  • “…lost wealth may be regained by industry and economy, lost knowledge by study, lost health by temperance and medicine, but lost time is gone forever.”
  • “Many a great man has snatched his reputation from odd bits of time which others, who wonder at their failure to get on, throw away.”
  • “Great men have ever been misers of moments.”
  • “Time is money. We should not be stingy or mean with it, but we should not throw away an hour any more than we should throw away a dollar bill. Waste of time means waste of energy, waste of vitality, waste of character in dissipation. It means waste of opportunities which will never come back. Beware how you kill time, for all your future lives in it.

I date my daughters

I date my daughters and it’s the best thing I do as a parent!

Here’s how it works:

  • Each girl gets one hour of “out-of-house” time with dad per week. (It usually ends up being more than one hour but that’s the base-line).
  • I try to do something that will appeal to each daughter’s love language. For instance, Lexington loves quality time so this week we went to the park and played! Reagan loves gifts so I bought her fake flowers and we sat on a swing at Wal-Mart and talked. Ashton likes to sleep so I held her on my chest and we slept! ;-) Dallas… I’m still trying to figure out her love language, but until I do we’re gonna hit the park!
  • It is on my calendar as a meeting. I will miss other meetings to make this one!
  • On our date their is no competition for daddy! I do not answer my phone, text message, or talk with other people while we’re on our date! I’ve seen too many parents take their kids to the park only to get engaged in conversation with another adult. That doesn’t happen here.
  • I wrap up our time together with a prayer for the “Lady” that I’ve just spent time with.

I’ve noticed a few things about dating “The Ladies”

  • They are almost as excited about the date as I am! Seriously, they talk about it all week! They can’t wait to be with daddy!
  • I am a better parent when I date my daughters! I begin seeing them not as “my kids” but as real people with real feelings, thoughts, desires, etc. I find that I respond differently to them when I date them!
  • They are better children when I date them! I am amazed at how differently “The Ladies” act at home and in public when I invest time in them! They listen better, show love more quickly, etc. The bottom-line is when I invest time into “The Ladies” their behavior improves!
  • Sherri is impressed with me when I date “The Ladies.” Most moms want for their children to know the love of their father… a strong, safe, guiding love. Sherri respects me more when I give this time to our children.

A few thoughts when dating your kids:

  • Quit caring about what people think. I had to sing “Baby Fish” and “Mr. Sun” about 50x at the park the other day with Lexington. Some people may have thought I was nuts… but my little girl didn’t and quite frankly that’s all that matters! I refuse to let some “mature” adult shape my relationship with my child! Sing, swing, slide, and crawl with your kids… it’s a date!
  • Do it regularly. For maximum impact put “Date” on your calendar and treat it like a meeting with your boss! It may seem to be an “inconvenience” now, but twenty years from now you’ll look back and say, “It was an investment!” And quite frankly, if you date your child regularly… it won’t take twenty years to see the value of these dates! It’ll take a few weeks and you’ll begin to notice positive changes in them and you!
  • Regularly let them take the lead. Don’t be “grown up” on your date! Let your child take the lead. This does two things: 1) It gives you a window into what your child likes; 2) It helps to develop leadership skills in your child. Throw down your pride and follow your child! It’s a blast!
  • Wrap it up with prayer. I want my girls to know that I love and follow Jesus and that I hope that someday they will love and follow Him too. I wrap up each date with a prayer in which I celebrate the fun we had, the strengths of the individual child, and an expression of love and gratitude to Jesus for allowing me to be the daddy of whichever “Lady” I’m on a date with.

I date my daughters because:

  • I want to know them as people
  • I want to set the bar REAL high when it comes to the expectations they have of the men they will marry
  • I want them to know the love of their earthly father so that they can more fully grasp the love of their Heavenly Father
  • I like how I feel when I see the admiration and love in their eyes when they look at me

Yea, so I date my daughters and it’s the best thing I do as a parent.