When you fail…

Back up and start again.

That’s right! If it was worth putting your hand to the first time then it’s probably worth putting your hand to it a second time.

Today I failed to get my lift (for the second week in a row) at Brutal Iron Gym.

I’m mad. I’m disappointed. But I’m sure as heck not done.

I’m going to back up… work hard… and push that weight right up off my chest.

You know what? Life is a lot like the gym. You’re going to fail from time to time.

You can quit. Walk away. Live the rest of your life with anger and disappointment.

OR

you can back up… work hard… and go for it again.

You see, the obstacle isn’t going to get any heavier, but you can get stronger, and in time you’ll move that weight!

So, what are you going to do with your failure?

Don’t let your mind stop you

Most often when people quit in the gym is NOT because their muscles are not strong enough… it’s because their MIND is not strong enough!

I see it all the time! Their form will be solid, they will be going strong and then all of a sudden… They’re DONE. They QUIT.

As a trainer I know that what just happened was, most often, NOT a muscle failure, but a mind failure. “It hurt too bad.” “It was making me sick.” “I was getting really tired.” Yada Yada Yada…

The other day I was working with a client and watched something beautiful. She was on her 4th repetition. She was supposed to do 5. She got stuck. I thought, “She’s going to quit, and it will be a legitimate fail… her muscles are done.” And then she didn’t! She got stuck physically and then her mind kicked in! She nailed not only her 4th but her 5th rep as well! In that moment we both knew… when the body was ready to quit… the mind said, “NO!”

Here’s what I know…

What is true in the gym is also true in life.

Most people quit well before they have to. They quit because it hurts too much, looks too big, sounds so difficult. They quit when the going gets hard… and miss the beauty and reward of what lies on the other side of hard.

You have the capacity to do some pretty incredible things… if you will not allow your mind to bail out on you!

How do you do that? Here’s one suggestion:

Stop listening to yourself and start talking to yourself.

We all have a little voice in our head that is constantly telling us things. And more often than not they are not encouraging messages. You can listen to that voice. Many do.

OR you can speak over that voice with a new voice. Your voice. Your voice telling yourself, “I can do this.” “I will do this.”

It will take practice. You’ve been conditioned to listen to yourself. We all have.

As you speak to yourself, in time, the messages you speak will become the new norm! “I can” will replace “I can’t.” “I’m too scared” will be replaced by “Here goes!”

This works. You can be your biggest cheerleader or your biggest skeptic. You get to choose. You get to choose what voice you listen to!

Stop listening to yourself and start talking to yourself and see what happens to your mental toughness! I think you’ll like the results!

Pssst… you will be glad you hopped over to Michael Hyatt’s blog and read this post by a guest blogger (LaRae Quy) 5 Characteristics of a Strong Mind.

Big announcement today at Church180

Today at Church180 we made a big announcement.

Over the course of the next year we will be hosting two world care trips! One to Mexico (July 27 – August 2 of this year), and one to Uganda (January of 2014).

What’s so cool about both of these ventures is that we are partnering with some great people to make this happen.

The trip to Mexico is in conjunction with Mountain Lake Church in Atlanta, Georgia and Hands and Feet Ministry.

The trip to Uganda is in partnership with E3.

The leader for this project from Church180 is Fran Hinson. Fran has actually taken the trip to Uganda… and been revolutionized by it!

Our church has worked hard to reach out to our local community through partnerships with Ebinport Elementary and Pilgrims Inn. Those partnerships will continue.

Now it’s time to expand our reach, and I can’t be more excited about who is leading this charge, the groups we are working with, and the places we are going!

What makes a great day

Today was a good day.

I got up early, ate breakfast, read a little, and did some dishes. Then the ladies started to rouse. We made juice (carrots, an apple, kale, and 1/2 head of lettuce), ate breakfast then headed out to watch a basketball game at Oakdale Baptist Church. We cheered and laughed with friends and celebrated a good game.

After that we went to Cherry Park, walked the trail then wore the ladies out at the park.

Then we went home, ate lunch and put the ladies down for quiet time/nap. Sherri and I cuddled up to watch Captain America on Netflix. Both of us fell asleep. Nice.

We woke up, played with the dog, clipped her toe nails, and laughed together.

Then I headed out to Starbucks to put some final thoughts on paper for tomorrow’s lesson at Church180.

Tonight I’m going to hang out with some friends to watch UFC 158 where George St. Pierre will put a beat down on Nick Diaz.

It’s been a most wonderful day.

How to make chicken

No seriously! This is what this blog post is all about!

I shot these videos of Sherri making chicken because I wanted you to see a couple of things: 1) how she makes all of that goodness, and 2) how we prep our food for the week.

We’ve discovered this, eating healthy takes time! If you don’t take the time to prep you’ll end up eating sloppy (i.e. processed foods and drive through restaurants). We’ve found that doing a big food prep on Sunday nights gets our week started right! So, without further ado, here’s the process…

 

Financial wisdom from a wise and smart dad (part 5)

bible-and-financesI love Dave Ramsey. He has changed my life because he changed how I think about money. Another man who was instrumental in changing my life because he changed how I think about money is my friend Casey Graham. These are two of the wisest men I know when it comes to personal finances. The amazing thing to me is how much they sound like the wisest and richest man who ever lived… Solomon.

Solomon put pen to paper and wrote over 3,000 proverbs, many of which are recorded in the book of Proverbs in the Bible. Many of these proverbs have to do with money! Dave, Casey, and many others have embraced the financial wisdom passed on to us from Solomon and have put it to good use. You can too!

We are in week five of a six week journey through the book of Proverbs in which we are highlighting some of the best practices outlined by Solomon. If you’ve missed the previous posts you can catch them here: part 1, part 2, part 3, and part 4.

Today we’re going to cover the top five lessons learned in chapters 21-25 of Proverbs! Ready? Here we go!

#18 Plan and work the plan

Solomon says, “Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty” (Proverbs 21:5 NLT). This is one of my favorite money verses! People who have a plan and work the plan are WAY more likely to see prosperity than those who just work hard.

In the world of finances we call that plan a “spending plan” (aka a budget). Do you have one of those? John Maxwell says that a budget is you “telling your money where to go instead of wondering where it went.” Plan… and work the plan!

#19 Only a fool spends everything he gets

Look at this, “The wise have wealth and luxury, but fools spend whatever they get” (Proverbs 21:20 NLT). The reason the wise have “wealth and luxury” is because they have learned the value of delayed gratification. In other words, they know how to say “no” now so they can say “yes” later! (check this post out for more on this topic)

Ironically, just a couple of versese earlier Solomon wrote, “Those who love pleasure become poor; wine and luxury are not the way to riches” (Proverbs 21:17 NLT). He’s right in both instances! The issue here is one of timing. A poor man who craves luxury NOW and has not learned to say “No” to himself NOW will NEVER enjoy the lap of luxury! The wise man however, the one who has learned to say “no” to himself, will someday have everything the poor man wants… but cannot have. Solomon is right… only a fool spends all he has.

#20 You are a slave to the one to whom you owe money.

Some of you think you are free… but you are not. Not if you have debt. If you really think you are free then stop sending in money every month and see how quickly your life changes! Solomon said it like this, “Just as the rich rule the poor, so the borrower is servant to the lender” (Proverbs 22:7 NLT).

Here’s a question, are you in charge of your life or is Sallie Mae? Bank of America? Best Buy? Mastercard?

#21 Skilled workers will live well.

I heard a story once about the president of an ivy league school who was talking to his faculty and staff. He reportedly said, “Be nice to your ‘A’ students for someday they will come back here and teach. Be really nice to your ‘C’ students, for they they are the ones who will come back and build the buildings in which you teach.” Whether or not that is a true story is debatable, but I know plenty of people who though perhaps not “A students” were highly skilled in their craft… and lived very well as a result.

Solomon made this point as well; he wrote, “Do you see any truly competent workers? They will serve kings rather than ordinary people” (Proverbs 22:29 NLT). So here’s a question, what are you doing to improve your valuable skill sets?

#22 Security comes before comfort

Hey, don’t go buying and building just because you THINK your business is going to pay for your pleasure! Remember this, hope pays for nothing! Get that money-maker up and running and then you can spend! Look at this nugget from Solomon, “Develop your business first before building your house” (Proverbs 24:27 NLT).

This is especially wise counsel for young people and newly married couples! Don’t let your first big decision be one that leads to big debt! A broke man with a big house and a new is much worse off than a broke man with a small house and an old car. Make sure to establish your financial security before you begin to splurge on comfort and luxury! You’ll be glad you listened to Solomon!

OK, next week we’re going to wrap up this six part series through Proverbs. I hope this has been as helpful to you as it has been for me. I love Proverbs!

Financial wisdom from a wise and rich dad (part 4)

bible-and-financesIf you could sit down with someone who loves you and is both wise AND rich and listen to them talk about money, would you do it? That’s what reading the book in the Bible called Proverbs is like. It is a collection of wisdom written mostly from a father to his son.

What we find in Proverbs is wisdom that has passed the test of time. It is the kind of wisdom that when you look around you realize is still embraced by those who have accumulated and manage their finances well. Obvious exceptions come to mind, but on the whole these financial principles stand on their own.

If you’ve missed any of this series I encourage you to catch up: part one, part two, part three. Today we’re going to pick up the top five financial principles from chapters 16-20 of Proverbs (we’ve covered 12 principles thus far in chapters 1-15).

#13 Hunger keeps you moving!

Sometimes we’re scared to be hungry. It turns out, according to Solomon, that it may not be such a bad thing after all! A hungry person is a focused person! While this is true of food, it is also true of goals too… particularly financial ones.

Right now Sherri and I are “hungry” to be totally debt free. This hunger drives us to do things some folks just don’t understand… because they don’t have the same hunger we do for this goal.

Solomon writes, “The laborer’s appetite works for him; his hunger drives him on” (Proverbs 16:26 NIV).

So here’s the question, what are you hungry for and to what lengths are you willing to go to feed that hunger? Don’t deny the hunger. Let it be a motivation for you to achieve that goal! Let it focus your attention like the growling belly focuses your attention on your need for food!

#14 Stupid people co-sign.

We’ve hit this one before, but not this strong. It really is foolish to co-sign a loan. If you want to help someone GIVE them something, but don’t become responsible for their bill… because it his probable that you will end up paying for it… and if you don’t have the financial margin to cover it you will both sink!

Solomon said it like this:

It is poor judgment to co-sign a friend’s note, to become responsible for a neighbor’s debts.(Proverbs 17:18 NLT)

#15 A strategically timed gift will open doors for you.

Some people may call this a “bribe” and denounce this practice. Solomon would say it’s wise to use strategically timed gifts (though certainly he would insist on a high level of integrity as the whole of Proverbs indicates).

A gift opens the way for the giver and ushers him into the presence of the great. (Proverbs 18:16 NLT)

A couple of other verses in Proverbs make this case too:

  • A bribe is a charm to the one who gives it; wherever he turns, he succeeds. (Proverbs 17:8 NIV)
  • Many beg favors from a prince; everyone is the friend of a person who gives gifts! (Proverbs 19:6 NLT)
  • A secret gift calms anger; a secret bribe pacifies fury. (Proverbs 21:14 NLT)

Businesses recognize this. They often give perks and rewards with hopes of winning your trust and return business. Men recognize this! It’s why we bring flowers when we’re trying to win the heart of our lady! Keep it in mind… a strategically timed gift might just be what is needed to open the door for you.

#16 Passion without a plan leads to poverty.

OHHHH! This is a big one! Look at this:

Zeal without knowledge is not good; a person who moves too quickly may go the wrong way. (Proverbs 19:2 NLT)

You’ve seen it… and maybe even done it (I have)… invested in a poorly thought through idea… and payed for it… BIG TIME. Here’s the scoop, passion (i.e. zeal) is not a bad thing… it’s passion without a plan that will sink you. Let your passion drive you to put together a plan and then work that plan! Solomon says that, “Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty” (Proverbs 21:5 NLT).

#17 Watch out for the person who is always negotiating.

Solomon writes, “The buyer haggles over the price, saying, “It’s worthless,” then brags about getting a bargain!” (Proverbs 20:14).

There’s certainly nothing wrong with working to get a good deal… just be mindful that the “negotiator” who mocks your price may later mock you because he snickered you out of your goods. (“Snickered”… not exactly sure what that means but it sounds right here).

The point here is that you should not be deceived or tricked in your financial dealings by smooth talking cons. Be mindful!

OK, here’s the scoop, there is so much more to say about finances from Proverbs! I just can’t get it all in over the course of these six weeks, so I encourage you to take one month to read and make note of all the references to finances in the book of Proverbs! You’ll be wiser, and likely even richer for the wisdom you accumulate!

Physical Friday: a bunch of quotes to get you thinking

thinkingI believe that everything is connected. If you pay attention to your physical health, you will see it reflected in your attitudes, your spiritual life, your relationships, and in other areas of your life as well.

Here are a collection of quotes (hat tip to the folks over at Global Healing Center for compiling many of these quotes) that both reflect this idea and will make you think about your own approach to health!

“Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy wealthy and wise”  ~Benjamin Franklin

“Physical fitness is not only one of the most important keys to a healthy body, it is the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity.”  ~John F. Kennedy

“The greatest wealth is Health.”  ~Unknown

“Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food”  ~Hippocrates

“Just because you’re not sick doesn’t mean you’re healthy”   ~Author Unknown

“Those who think they have no time for exercise will sooner or later have to find time for illness.”   ~Edward Stanley

“If you don’t take care of your body, where are you going to live?”   ~Unknown

“Garbage in garbage out”  ~George Fuechsel

“Life expectancy would grow by leaps and bounds if green vegetables smelled as good as bacon.”  ~Doug Larson

“Health is a state of complete harmony of the body, mind and spirit. When one is free from physical disabilities and mental distractions, the gates of the soul open.”  ~B.K.S. Iyengar

“In order to change we must be sick and tired of being sick and tired.”  ~Author Unknown

“Health is like money, we never have a true idea of its value until we lose it.”  ~Josh Billings

“From the bitterness of disease man learns the sweetness of health.”  ~Catalan Proverb

“Health and cheerfulness naturally beget each other.”  ~Joseph Addison

“Your body is a temple, but only if you treat it as one.”  ~Astrid Alauda

“Mainstream medicine would be way different if they focused on prevention even half as much as they focused on intervention…”  ~Anonymous

“Our bodies are our gardens – our wills are our gardeners.”  ~William Shakespeare

“The best and most efficient pharmacy is within your own system.”  ~Robert C. Peale

“Health is not simply the absence of sickness.”  ~Hannah Green

“My own prescription for health is less paperwork and more running barefoot through the grass”  ~Leslie Grimutter

“The more you eat, the less flavor; the less you eat, the more flavor.”  ~Chinese Proverb

“The best doctor gives the least medicines.”  ~Benjamin Franklin

“The doctor of the future will no longer treat the human frame with drugs, but rather will cure and prevent disease with nutrition.”  ~Thomas Edison

“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones..”  ~Proverbs 17:22

“True healthcare reform starts in your kitchen, not in Washington”  ~Anonymous

“A man too busy to take care of his health is like a mechanic too busy to take care of his tools.”  ~Spanish Proverb

“To keep the body in good health is a duty, for otherwise we shall not be able to trim the lamp of wisdom, and keep our mind strong and clear. Water surrounds the lotus flower, but does not wet its petals.”  ~Buddha

“Now there are more overweight people in America than average-weight people. So overweight people are now average. Which means you’ve met your New Year’s resolution.”  ~Jay Leno

“Don’t eat anything your great-great grandmother wouldn’t recognize as food. There are a great many food-like items in the supermarket your ancestors wouldn’t recognize as food.. stay away from these” ~Michael Pollan

“He who takes medicine and neglects to diet wastes the skill of his doctors.”  ~Chinese Proverb

“Sickness comes on horseback but departs on foot.”  ~Dutch Proverb

“Diseases of the soul are more dangerous and more numerous than those of the body.”   ~Cicero

“A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book.”  ~Irish Proverb

“Today, more than 95% of all chronic disease is caused by food choice, toxic food ingredients, nutritional deficiencies and lack of physical exercise.”  ~Mike Adams

“It’s bizarre that the produce manager is more important to my children’s health than the pediatrician.”   ~Meryl Streep

“Healing in a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.”  ~Hippocrates

“The part can never be well unless the whole is well.”  ~Plato

“You can never out-exercise a bad diet.” Anonymous