Ten fatal flaws that derail leaders

Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman recently did a study in which they identified the “Ten fatal flaws that derail leaders.”

Great reading for leaders who want to improve!

failing leadership

The worst leaders:

Lack energy and enthusiasm They see new initiatives as a burden, rarely volunteer, and fear being overwhelmed. One such leader was described as having the ability to “suck all the energy out of any room.”

Accept their own mediocre performance They overstate the difficulty of reaching targets so that they look good when they achieve them. They live by the mantra “Underpromise and overdeliver.”

Lack clear vision and direction They believe their only job is to execute. Like a hiker who sticks close to the trail, they’re fine until they come to a fork.

Have poor judgment They make decisions that colleagues and subordinates consider to be not in the organization’s best interests.

Don’t collaborate They avoid peers, act independently, and view other leaders as competitors. As a result, they are set adrift by the very people whose insights and support they need.

Don’t walk the talk They set standards of behavior or expectations of performance and then violate them. They’re perceived as lacking integrity.

Resist new ideas They reject suggestions from subordinates and peers. Good ideas aren’t implemented, and the organization gets stuck.

Don’t learn from mistakes They may make no more mistakes than their peers, but they fail to use setbacks as opportunities for improvement, hiding their errors and brooding about them instead.

Lack interpersonal skills They make sins of both commission (they’re abrasive and bullying) and omission (they’re aloof, unavailable, and reluctant to praise).

Fail to develop others They focus on themselves to the exclusion of developing subordinates, causing individuals and teams to disengage.

Grandpa and “The Ladies”

I love my dad.

He works hard.

He drives truck and from time to time gets to swing in and spend a day with us.

He’s a favorite with “The Ladies.”

dad and the ladies

How Jesus viewed “change”

Luke 5:36-39 follows on the heels of a discussion that Jesus and the religious leaders of the day were having (Read verses 27-35). I’ve often wondered, “What do these verses mean?” Recently, I spent some time there and have a few thoughts to share.

There are three “pictures” in these verses:

Picture #1 “No one tears a patch from a new garment and sews it on an old one. If he does, he will have torn the new garment, and the patch from the new will not match the old.  Picture #2 37 And no one pours new wine into old wineskins. If he does, the new wine will burst the skins, the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined.  38 No, new wine must be poured into new wineskins.  Picture #3 39 And no one after drinking old wine wants the new, for he says, ‘The old is better.’”

Now take a minute and read this commentary from the IVP New Testament Commentary (I’ve bolded some key thoughts):

Picture #1 Jesus is like a new piece of cloth. No seamstress worth her salt would take a new piece of cloth and patch it onto an old garment. Such a match produces two problems. The new cloth will tear the old, and the pieces of material will not match. There is irony here: the patch that is supposed to fix the garment would end up ruining both. This new era Jesus brings simply cannot be wed to the old practices. It is new and requires new ways.

Picture #2 The second picture involves wine and wineskins. Again, the result of putting new wine into old skins would be disaster, a tragic waste of wine. The new wine would ferment and cause the old wineskins to burst–the new wine would then be lost and the wineskin rendered useless.

There can be no syncretism between what Jesus brings and the old tradition of Judaism. If it were tried, both would be destroyed. Jesus brings a new era and a fresh approach to God that cannot be mixed with the old traditions.

So new wine must be poured into new wineskins. Jesus’ presence requires a new way, new forms and a new spirit.

Picture #3 Next Jesus faces the possibility of rejection. His third picture involves someone satisfied with the old wine: “No one after drinking old wine wants the new, for he says, `The old is better.’ “ This is probably a warning and an explanation. Jesus knows that some, especially among the Pharisees, will not come to him, because they are satisfied with the wine they have. Nothing will change their mind. Rejection by some is inevitable. Jesus’ presence means a choice between him and the old style of Judaism. With Jesus’ presence things are different. New times require fresh ways.

Some thoughts:

Often we try to make changes by slowly integrating the new with the old. Over time what happens is that the “new” is watered down and the “old” is muddied up so that neither is desirable! In many cases, it is better to either leave the old or implement the new completely, or in large chunks at a minimum.

There are two schools of thought on change.

  • School #1 = new leaders often hear this advice, “Don’t make any changes for the first year you’re there.” In other words, “Go slow.”
  • School #2 = new leaders are sometimes counseled to move fast receiving counsel like this, “People are expecting change so go ahead and implement change when it’s expected.”

In most contexts, I have an inclination towards the “change when people are expecting it” way of thinking. One thing I have learned though is that we need to EXPLAIN and GIVE A HEAD’S UP before/while implementing change! (This often happens in “the meeting before the meeting”.) No one wants to be surprised by change! They may not like the change but at least they know what and when it’s coming!

Leader, if you have a clear vision, there is no doubt you will need to lead/implement change. Typically “what is” when you arrive is not what you hope “will be.” The only way to move from “what is” to what “will be” is change. You can play in the mud (i.e. attempt to integrate new with old) and go slowly or you can move graciously and decisively to implement change.

HOWEVER, know this, when you make decisive change, not everyone will like it. Some will drink the old wine and say, “I like it better than the new wine.” Remember what Jesus said, “No one after drinking old wine wants the new, for he says, `The old is better.’ ”

As a Christian leader, my desire is that when changes have been/are being implemented there will be an environment of grace and truth. I pray that we will love one another enough to speak the truth and offer grace to each other as we transition from “what is” to “what will be.” I pray that even if we disagree to the point of separation we can do so in a manner that is gracious and kind. In other words, I don’t want to have to duck if I see you in Wal-Mart! ;-) and I don’t want you to have to avoid me either! ;-)

Change is inevitable. You can do it slow, or you can just do it. Be aware of the context and lead your team, church, family, business, etc. towards the vision that God has called you towards!

(If you haven’t checked out BibleGateway.com you really need too! There are great resources on this site, including the commentary I referenced above. Check out their free resources here.)

Dad, don’t make your child angry

angry child

Reading in Ephesians the other day I had a run-in with these verses:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  “Honor your father and mother”– which is the first commandment with a promise–  “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1-4)

A few observations here:

  • Interesting that the Bible only says this to dads “Don’t exasperate your children.” In my experience, dads are more likely to do this than moms. Interesting.
  • I know in my home, I’m more likely than Sherri is to aggravate “The Ladies.” I don’t mean to. Sometimes I don’t even realize it until they’re really upset.
  • Don’t irritate them. Train them! You can’t train an angry child.
  • It’s easier to have a relationship built on “goofing off” than it is one based on “building up.” The only way a “building up” relationship will exist is if I take the initiative. It’s easier to chase around the house, give zerbers, pinch buns, and make silly faces than it is to “train them up in the instruction of the Lord.”

I don’t want the essence of the daddy/daughter relationship to be goofiness. Oh I don’t mind silliness at all! In fact, I love it! I just don’t want that to be the defining characteristic of our relationship. I want our relationship to have substance based on respect and trust.

I’m thinking about some ways to take our relationship to the next level. A few of these include:

  • Dating my daughters.
  • Praying for my daughters.
  • Making sure I have something of worth to give my daughters which means I need to be paying attention to my relationship with God and my bride.
  • Having realistic expectations.
  • Being consistent in discipline and reward.
  • Apologizing when I unnecessarily make them angry and taking corrective steps to change my behavior.

What do you think?

Mom, who is most likely to “hack off” the kids in your house? You or dad?

Dad, have you realized this about yourself, or am I off base here? What have you done to adjust this behavior?

We’re moving to…

The last two years have been amazing.

On July 1, 2007 I wrapped up my pastoral service at Northgate Church in Batavia, New York. That was a day that has forever impacted how I view God and the mission of the church. We baptized 163 people that day! (read it here)

We packed up, sold our house (one year later) and headed down south to Mountain Lake Church to learn how to plant a church! We spent one year in a church planting residency through churchplanters.com learning from the experts: Shawn Lovejoy, David Putman, and a host of others!

During our time there, God called us to Cincinnati to plant Walls Down Church. We had a clear vision of what God wanted to do so we developed a plan, built a team, generated funds, and set about the work of planting a church. As you may know, Walls Down never launched. It didn’t launch BUT, the dream hasn’t changed, the passion hasn’t devolved, and the confidence… ahhh the confidence, while it comes from a new source (Christ) it is stronger than ever!

Over the last several months we have been seeking God’s desire for our lives. We’ve prayed, traveled, sought counsel from mentors and friends, read Scripture, fasted, journaled, and wondered… or wandered (we did both!). We’ve had opportunities ranging from California to Illinois, from Pennsylvania to Georgia, and from Colorado to Ohio. The salaries have ranged from “Oh my gosh that’s great” to “Oh my gosh, that’s awful.” The diversity of people groups and the emphasis of the various local churches has been interesting! We’ve had a love/hate experience with these last several months – loving the adventure and hating the uncertainty.

The decision of where to go came down to the two smallest churches, both with similar stories. Both churches were planted 10-15 years ago. Neither church owns a building. Both churches stated that it’s time to refocus and even relaunch.

After much prayer we determined that God’s place for us was the church located in Rock Hill, South Carolina.

This is a church that was planted ten years ago and commissioned to be a church planting church. They are the only Free Methodist Church in South Carolina. There are a handful of committed, passionate, talented, and courageous people at this church. I am looking forward to getting to know them. God has prepared my family and me. God has prepared the people of the church in Rock Hill. God is bringing us together to continue writing His story of the redemptive mission of the church.

I am excited about this opportunity because it allows me to serve in a role that I’m familiar with – bringing a new focus to a church, AND it allows me to scratch my church planting itch!

The mission is clear – help people discover and live the life Jesus promised.

The location is clear – for us, it starts in Rock Hill, South Carolina.

And for now one more thing is clear… there’s a lot of packing to do so I may as well get to it!

Three tips for fundraisers

Ben Franklin had some great advice for fundraisers!

  1. Ask people you KNOW will give.
  2. Ask those who might give. Let them know what you’ve raised so far. If appropriate, show them who’s already given.
  3. Ask those you know won’t give. They may surprise you! NEVER say “No” for someone! Give them a chance to surprise you!

Of course this assumes that you represent a cause worth giving to AND have shared a compelling vision AND have laid out a strategy/plan that represents thoughtful leadership.

I’ve gotta get away

solitude 1 When I’m stressed out I usually think/say something like this, “I need to get away.”

One of Jesus’ defining moments followed a time of “getting away”.

He had been on a whirlwind “tour of greatness” in which He was healing people, casting out demons, teaching/preaching, experiencing the adulation of the crowds and the cold, menacing shoulder of the religious leaders of the day. He had just healed St. Peter’s mother-in-law (I wonder if He asked Peter before He did that?) and “got up in the grill” of some evil spirits. He was very likely tired. What did He do?

STOP.

Many people today are like Jesus in that we live in a whirlwind tour of “greatness” (?)… well, at least a whirlwind tour. We keep busy doing what we believe or at least hope are good and productive things. There comes a point at which we just get tired. What do you do?

RESUME.

Jesus had worked hard and done much good, so He took off for some quiet time… He got away (aka solitude). St. Luke writes, “At daybreak Jesus went out to a solitary place” (Luke 4:42).

And then the defining moment happened…

At daybreak Jesus went out to a solitary place. The people were looking for him and when they came to where he was, they tried to keep him from leaving them. But he said, “I must preach the good news of the kingdom of God to the other towns also, because that is why I was sent.” And he kept on preaching in the synagogues of Judea. (Luke 4:42-44)

The opportunity was there for Jesus to continue His tour of greatness! He could have settled in, done good work, received accolades and payment for his ministry, no doubt been asked to speak at some conferences, and likely have retired safe, old, and esteemed. A good gig for a normal dude, but Jesus wasn’t that.

Something happened during his “time away.” His time of solitude wiped away the “smudges” that busyness had left on the windshield of His life. Solitude served Him like windshield wipers serve a driver in a rainstorm… it brought clarity.

Principle lesson: Solitude is a great place to discover clarity.

Jesus could have said, “They love me! They need me! I’ve been seeing great results here! I’m going to stay and continue my ministry here!” Instead, after a time of solitude, He responded to their strong requests to stay by saying, “I must preach the good news of the kingdom of God to the other towns also, because that is why I was sent.”

Out of His “get away” (solitude) flowed clarity of purpose. He knew what He had to do! His purpose was refreshed, His vision was clear, and His determination was solidified. Why? Very likely these conditions were a direct result of His “get away.”

Guys, busyness and even success will fog up the windshield of our lives. We’ll be prone to make decisions based on results instead of purpose if we’re not careful, and ultimately we’ll stray away from the very purpose for our existence!

Take this lesson from Jesus, it is in solitude that clarity is discovered and when we are clear about our purpose we’ll make the best decisions.

Let’s talk:

How do you “get away”?

Do you have a special time? A special place?

What do you do when you “get away”?

Why I love the Bible

bible study

I’ve been reading through Psalms 119 the last few days. These are some of my favorite verses in the Psalms:

97 Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long.

98 Your commands make me wiser than my enemies, for they are ever with me.

99 I have more insight than all my teachers, for I meditate on your statutes.

100 I have more understanding than the elders, for I obey your precepts.

101 I have kept my feet from every evil path so that I might obey your word.

102 I have not departed from your laws, for you yourself have taught me.

103 How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!

104 I gain understanding from your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path.

One of the key reasons I love the Bible is that I’m transformed and improved by adhering to it’s teachings!

Three key ideas here:

  1. Memorize
  2. Meditate
  3. Obey

Embrace these three ideas and your appreciation of and love for the Bible will increase!

I’ve been using a reading plan to help me read through the Bible in one year. You can use it too! Click here to download it.

She’s gonna be like me

This morning I was reading my Bible on the back deck.

Dallas wanted to be with me.

I watched her as she imitated me and realized, “She’s doing what she sees me do. I am a model.”

And then I prayed, “God help me to live a life that’s worth imitating.”

dallas reading her bible

How to get something done

These days I am learning a lot from dead men, particularly Ben Franklin and John Wesley.

Both of these men were world changers. They created organizations and put forth ideas that continue to influence our lives today:

  • John Wesley – founder of the Methodist Church; emphasis on the doctrine of sanctification
  • Ben Franklin – created the first library, fire station, etc.; one of

RANT: One of the beauties of reading dead men is that their ideas have been tested and proved. The danger of doing all of your learning from blogs and new books is that many of the ideas proposed have not been tested and proved over time. In other words, they don’t have a track record. I believe that the more things change, the more leaders need to be experts in things that don’t change, and that’s why reading the wisdom of the ancients is helpful. RANT OVER.

Ben Franklin shares this nugget in his autobiography:

I have always thought that one man of tolerable abilities may work great changes, and accomplish great affairs among mankind if he first forms a good plan and, cutting off all amusements or other employments that would divert his attention, makes the execution of that same plan his sole study and business.

Franklin essentially says, an average Joe who has an idea, a good plan, and a rigorous work ethic can create a wave of change.

You don’t have to be a superstar, have letters behind your name, make a lot of money, or know all the right people to make a difference. You have to have a dream, a good plan, and be committed to hard work and you can accomplish great things!

SOOOOOOO…

what’s your idea?

what’s your plan?

what are you willing to give up to accomplish your idea?

how hard are you willing to work?

Thanks Ben!