A good night… a great start

Last night I had the privilege of speaking at Christ Deliverance Church in Rock Hill, SC.  My friend Alvin Murdock is the pastor. Christ Deliverance Church is an African American Church. It was a good night.

Pastor Alvin and I have had some incredible talks about race, racism and how healing might occur. Last night was a great start.

Spring Blast!

AHHHHHHHH!!!!!

This morning as Sherri and I were having our “Coin & Calendar Meeting” we looked to our right and saw this…

Apparently Ashton has mutated into something that does not especially care for Coin & Calendar.

I love Saturday mornings

Saturday mornings are great!

It’s awesome to sleep in and wake up in a bed with anywhere from 5-7 people in it… the majority of which are under 7 years old!

Morning breath…

Bedhead…

Requests to “scoot over”…

Tickling…

Laughing…

More requests to “scoot over”…

And when we finally do get out of bed there is the highly anticipated “Big Breakfast” followed by the “Coin and Calendar” meeting!

Mow the lawn…

Wash the cars…

Watch some movies…

Finish up for Sunday (if there’s anything left to do)…

Saturdays in a house with 6 beautiful ladies are a wonderful experience!

I love Saturdays!

“Climate of opinion”

C.S. Lewis writes words worth considering,

“I take a very low view of ‘climates of opinion.’ In his own subject every man knows that all discoveries are made and all errors corrected by those who ignore the ‘climate of opinion.’” (The Problem of Pain, pg. 120)

In other words, breakthrough insights typically come from the fringe of your organization… from those who don’t “know any better.”

Who are you listening to when you make organizational decisions?

Why not turn to someone outside of the “climate of opinion” and see what kind of insight they might offer to the issue you are facing?

Power of a paradigm (Britain could have won the war)

Right now I’m reading about American history. One of the books that I’m reading is American Creation by Joseph Ellis.

This morning I was rocked by this paragraph:

One of the beguilingly quaint customs of eighteenth-century warfare was the agreed upon understanding that armies do not fight in winter. If Howe [the British General opposing George Washington] had chosen to defy that custom in the winter of 1777-1778 (and the same argument would apply to the previous winter encampment at Morristown), he would almost surely have destroyed the Continental Army during its season of wholesale comings and goings, when it was most vulnerable.

But the idea of waging a decisive winter campaign, so obvious to us schooled in the relentless character of modern warfare, never even occurred to Howe, for the same reason that it never occurred to regular troops in either army to lie down in the prone position when the enemy prepared to fire a volley.

… there were unspoken and unbreakable rules of engagement that commanders of armies honored as gentlemen, and one of them was that warfare did not happen in winter.

America is a nation today because a British general was enslaved to a paradigm, a model/pattern of warfare that insisted “this is how we do things.”

The American forces were vulnerable, cold, starving, and significantly outnumbered. The British forces were in a perfect position to eliminate their enemy and crush the American Revolution. But because “warfare did not happen in winter” they missed their opportunity.

As I read that I started thinking about church (you can apply this principle to any relationship, organization, etc. you are a part of). What models/patterns (aka paradigms) are we blindly locked into that are keeping us from effectively expanding the influence of Jesus in our communities and beyond?

What are the thing that do not even occur to us that future generations will look back on and say, “How did they miss that?”

Mark Batterson often says, “There are ways of doing church that we haven’t thought of yet.” I think he’s right, so what are they?

I’ve traveled enough and visited enough churches to conclude that basically we’re all doing the same thing. Some are better than others and have more money to do it bigger than others, but essentially we all do the same thing. We’re all locked into a similar paradigm that is arguably not as effective as we might hope it to be.

Britain could have won the war (I’m grateful they didn’t) if they would have thought differently about warfare. It’s too late now.

It’s not too late for the church though. There is still time. Our Leader, Jesus, is alive and speaking to all who will listen! He has put blood on the ground for this cause! He is the source of “all wisdom and knowledge” (Colossians 2:3) and is speaking still to those who are quiet enough to listen and courageous enough to act!

I leave you with this paradigm-busting verse from Psalms, “The LORD confides in those who fear him; he makes his covenant known to them” (Psalms 25:14 NIV).

Now go! Listen to God and then act courageously to break paradigms and claim new territory!

Dating another lady

The best days of my life are those days when I get to spend one-on-one time with my ladies.

Every Thursday night Sherri and I go on a date. It is a non-negotiable. We’ve dated almost every week since we’ve been married and expect to do it until the day we die.

Of course “The Ladies” see this, and I hope they expect that from their husband too, but I want them to know what a “date” looks like, so I date them… one-on-one.

The date itself costs about $2 and lasts 1-2 hours. Dating ALL the ladies takes quite a bit of time, but it’s an investment that WILL have a HUGE return, so I make it.

Yesterday morning before Ashton and I took off on our date “Mommy” snapped a couple of pics:

Ashton, Daddy loves you a ton and had a great time with you yesterday!

Are Britain’s leaders flamingos?

You may know that right now Britain is preparing to elect a new Prime Minister.

Last night they had the final debate in which the 3 leading candidates faced off.

I’m confident that much of substance was discussed, but the one thing that intrigued me the most is this picture

For crying out loud? What are these men doing? Is this normal or are they in fact flamingos wearing suits?

(In case you didn’t know, flamingos rest by standing on one leg)

God can do that?

Reading in Romans this morning I was gripped by the story of Abraham and Sarah; two old people, really old people, that had a baby (he was 100 and she was 90)!

God had promised that He would make them parents of a son through whom a great nation would come into existence.

We now know that nation is Israel, but they didn’t know that. All they knew is that they were old, really old, and that old, really old people don’t make or have babies.

STOP

Has God ever done that to you? Has He ever given you a promise that you could not figure out how in the world He would make good on it?

GO

As I was reading this story I was struck by this description of God (Romans 4:17), “[He] brings the dead back to life and [He] brings into existence what didn’t exist before.”

That’s how God makes good on His promises… He restores life! He creates new when the old won’t work! He “brings into existence what didn’t exist before!”

Man that’s good stuff right there!

Don’t sit around wondering how God is going to do what He said He will do! If He said it, He can do it! Live like you believe that!

Live like Abraham, who in the face of physical limitations, social awkwardness, a skeptical spouse, etc. kept believing God! Check this out:

Abraham’s faith did not weaken, even though he knew that he was too old to be a father at the age of one hundred and that Sarah, his wife, had never been able to have children.  Abraham never wavered in believing God’s promise. In fact, his faith grew stronger, and in this he brought glory to God.  He was absolutely convinced that God was able to do anything he promised.  And because of Abraham’s faith, God declared him to be righteous. (Romans 4:19-22 NLT)

If God has promised you something, no matter what, live like you believe it!

Just be quiet

Reading this morning from Disciplines for the Inner Life I encountered a couple of timely quotes I want to share with you.

Have you ever had a problem that seemed like it grew more complicated the more you thought about it? Thomas Merton writes:

Contradictions have always existed in the soul of man. But it is only when we prefer analysis to silence that they become a constant and insoluble problem.

Some things, it seems that Merton is saying, can only be resolved in silence. And those that cannot be solved we recognize for what they are, namely, contradictions, questions, problems that in the grand scheme of life are not worthy of excessive energy, time, or resources.

Silence neutralizes many of our great struggles.

Another quote on the issue of silence comes from Henri Nouwen.

Ideas of value always shun verbosity, being foreign to confusion and fantasy. Timely silence, then, is precious, for it is nothing less than the mother of the wisest thoughts.”

Silence. The kind that is so quiet you can actually hear that small ringing in your ears. The longer you stay in silence the more you begin to hear, and I’m not talking about noise. In silence you begin to hear the rhythm of your soul and if you listen closely you will begin to hear the voice of God. It’s an amazing discipline that is to often neglected due to the noise and busyness of life.

I find my best “silence” in the morning.

How about you? What have you found to be true about silence?