How to make a friend

Yesterday I grabbed a cup of Starbucks and saw this great quote:

I used to feel so alone in the city. All those gazillions of people and then me, on the outside. Because how do you meet a new person? I was very stumped by this for many years. And then I realized, you just say, “Hi.” They may ignore you. Or you may marry them. And that possibility is worth that one word.

The bottom line is this – If you want to make a friend… be friendly.

A few other thoughts on making friends:

  • Learn someone’s name, use it, remember it! (check out this post – call people by name)
  • Smile!
  • Develop a pattern of showing up at the same place and time regularly! If it’s a restaurant… sit in the same spot and get to know the waitress/waiter (and for crying out loud… leave a good tip!)
  • Compliment people on their expertise!
  • Ask a question that highlights their capabilities and makes them look & feel good when they answer!

Now go and be friendly and make a friend… or twenty!

And if I should win a Pulitzer Prize for this blog entry, I would first like to thank my dear friend Jeff Harmon for his brilliant insights on this matter, and for consistently modeling how to win friends and influence people.

3 thoughts on “How to make a friend

  1. Hi Paul! I’m reminded of Dale Carnegie’s book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. A couple of the tips I remember include:

    * Be genuinely interested in other people.
    * Smile.

    Make it a great day!

  2. My goodness gracious..I read this very quotation from a starbucks cup to my class today!

    Oh the great minds that we are!

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