Some “waddup”

It has been quiet for a long time here on the blog!

While I’m not particularly happy about that… there are reasons!

Let me tell you what’s been happening in my life recently…

  • I’ve been working on a book! It’s called “First Half Parenting – Help for Parents With Kids from 1-10”. I’ll be telling you more about this in the weeks to come… but for now I am super excited as this book is getting closer to a reality!
  • Our church, Church180, is going through some huge changes! From personnel to facility… we are growing and the changes that come with that are exciting, fast, and important!
  • I had the chance last weekend to head up to New York to talk with some great people about sexuality in the church. It was a gratifying and insightful experience to be a part of that experience.
  • We’re working hard on our “Kill Debt Plan”. We can’t wait to travel to Dave Ramsey’s office and scream “WE’RE DEBT FREE” at the top of our lungs… all eight of us!!! But between now and then we are nose to the grindstone… working hard… spending little… paying off lots!!! My kids hate debt… and for that I am happy.

I’m looking forward to getting back on the blogging scene and hope you will join with me as these next few months are going to be big ones for me and, I trust, a lot of other people too!


You don’t need more inspiration

Seriously… sometimes the last thing you need is another inspirational quote or another inspirational talk on YouTube.

Sometimes you just need to get up and start doing the thing you’ve been wanting to do.

We lie to ourselves thinking, “I just need one more person to tell me to do it.”

We procrastinate our lives away thinking, “I’ll sign up for one more motivational seminar, and then I’ll be ready.”

Sometimes… many times what will be most inspirational is actually seeing progress… and that only happens when you start doing the work.

So, put down that book. Set down that laptop. Put down the phone and get to work.




If you’re in a rut and you need some inspiration… here you go…

The Habit Poem (author anonymous)
I am your constant companion.
I am your greatest helper or your heaviest burden.
I will push you onward or drag you down to failure.
I am completely at your command.
Half the things you do, you might just as well turn over to me,
and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.
I am easily managed; you must merely be firm with me.
Show me exactly how you want something done, and after a few lessons I will do it automatically.

I am the servant of all great men.
And, alas, of all failures as well.
Those who are great, I have made great.
Those who are failures, I have made failures.
I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine.
Plus, the intelligence of a man.
You may run me for profit, or run me for ruin; it makes no difference to me.
Take me, train me, be firm with me and I will put the world at your feet.
Be easy with me, and I will destroy you.
Who am I?

I am a HABIT!

Learn… or be normal.

A while ago I ran across a quote from Henry Doherty…

“It is the studying you do after your school days that really counts. Otherwise, you know only that which everyone else knows.”

Geeze… I don’t want to be normal. Normal assumes that things will get worse unless they are intentionally made better. I want to get better… so I expect to keep learning!

For me books are my go to source of information. I also find helpful coaches and teachers on YouTube.

Where do you go to keep learning? Take a minute to let me know on this poll!

#worstparentever – take care of you

Yesterday at Church180 we started a new teaching series called, #worstparentever.

Worst Parent Ever

If you missed it, you can watch/listen here.

The whole point of this teaching series is to encourage parents and to share information that we are finding to be helpful!

The first lesson in this series was this…

The better you are the better they are.

My heart hurts for so many parents! It seems like once they become parents they forget themselves.

Now before you write me off, let me remind you that I understand as well as anyone that parenting requires a shift in attention! Sherri and I have six daughters so I know what it requires.

HOWEVER, I regularly see parents completely neglect themselves once baby arrives… and that’s a mistake!

Here’s why…

YOU (parent) are the best gift you can give to your child! If you neglect yourself you won’t be a good gift!

Think about this, if you don’t care for yourself one else will. And if no one is caring for you it won’t be long until you run out of energy and passion… you will simply be a shell of the person you used to be… and that is not a good gift to your children!

No one else will care for you… least of all your kids! Their mission in life (at least the first few years) is to spill food, poop, scream, break things, and generally make things inconvenient as possible for you. Of course, none of this is on purpose… it’s just their default… until you teach them differently!

They (your kids) are not likely to offer to give you time to pray, exercise, or read. They are not likely to strike a deal with you that gives you time to nurture healthy relationships in exchange for an extra cup of juice.


If you are going to do those things it’s all up to you to find/make the time.

And here’s the scoop… when you do… it will make you a better person and parent!

If you say, “I don’t have time.” I call “Bull Crap” on you. Sherri and I find the time… and we have six kids. You can do this! You MUST do this!


The better you are the better they are!

So, take some time to watch this lesson and then go make a plan to care for yourself!

How to clean a guinea pig

guinea pigIn our home we have three guinea pigs (in addition to an English Mastiff, a bearded dragon, a bunch of fish, and almost as many kids).

Guinea pigs make great pets… especially if you have a lot of kids who all want a pet! They are small, fairly clean, and relatively low maintenance. They are also safe for children.

Our kids can only have a pet once they establish that they are responsible enough to care for it. Sherri and I have our hands full with the care and feeding of people… we don’t need the responsibility of another mouth… even if it is an animal.😉

Having said that, we do check in occasionally to see that the animals are neither dead nor living in squalor.

This morning I had a conversation with one of our daughters (she shall rename anonymous) that went like this:

Her: do you know how I clean my guinea pig when I run out of shampoo?

Me: No bud. How?

Her: I lick her.

Me: You what?!

Her: I lick her. That’s how she cleans herself so I thought I could do it too.

Me: You lick her?

Her: Yes!

Me: Go tell your mom!

And there you have it. One more way to clean your guinea pig… and save money in your budget ’cause you don’t need to buy shampoo!


Three ways to change yourself

Every month I write an article for the Brutal Iron Gym newsletter.

For now this is a free newsletter packed with good information and inspiration. If you want to receive it send an e-mail to!

This is the article I wrote for the June edition of the newsletter!


3 waysI’m a huge fan of getting better! In fact, one of my goals is to get better as I get older. Part of my plan for making that happen is by reading… constantly acquiring new ideas. One of the ideas that I ran across recently was something that I can’t wait to share with you! It has to do with how to change yourself!

First things first though… I am of the opinion that YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU! You are where you are because of the decisions you have made up to this point! You made food choices, relational choices, recreational choices, etc. that have created the man/woman you see in the mirror today.

The good news about this is that if your decisions have led you to the place you are currently, they can also take you to another place! Decisions followed by action are powerful tools!

Having said that, there are powerful forces that influence our decisions on a regular basis. Let me share the three most powerful (I owe this line of thought to Darren Hardy’s book “The Compound Effect”).

  1. Input
  2. Associations
  3. Environment

Let’s look at each one for a minute…


This is the “stuff” that goes into your mind.

Think about it… what does your mental diet consist of? Facebook? Netflix? TV? And there’s always the silly nonsense we can gorge on via Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, etc. (BTW, I have all of these and from time to time I actually learn some stuff from them!)

You know, if you drop a blob of mud into a perfectly clean pool that little bit of dirt will dilute the water! BUT, if you drop ten 5-gallon buckets into that pool… you’re going to have a mud puddle! That’s what we do to our mind when we fill it trash that does not inspire and motivate!

I’d encourage you to start filling your mind with positive inputs by reading good books, listening to inspiring podcasts, and talking with people who are already doing what you want to do, because at the end of the day… if you want to change you, the first thing you should consider is your mental diet!


Oh, this is a biggie!

The people you hang out with will, according to one study, “determine as much as 95% of your success or failure in life.”

Think about it, if you hang out with powerlifters, you’re probably going to end up lifting heavy stuff! If you hang out with bodybuilders, you’re likely to end up eating lots of chicken and blowing out your shirt sleeves! If you hang out with people who binge on Moon Pies and Chocolate Milk… well… you’re going to blow out some clothes too… just not the sleeves.

Seriously, I don’t need to spend a lot more time teaching this point because you know it… the people you hang with will help you or hurt you.

If you want to change you then you might just need to get some new friends.

WARNING, shameless plug forthcoming…

I recently wrote an entire blog post about this subject titled “Who’s In Your Circle of Five?” I encourage you to go read that… when you’re done with this post!

The third influence in our lives is…


Your environment is the sum of all the things around you: people, art, furnishings, words, etc.

Think about it like this… how do you feel when you walk into Brutal Iron Gym? Got it? Now think about this, how do you feel when you walk into your doctor’s office? You feel completely different because the environment is completely different.

Your environment is a huge influence on the person you are!

Some things that I like to include in my environment are: positive music, encouraging words, sunshine, hugs, high fives (BTW, I prefer high fives in the gym), good books, etc.

Let me ask you this, if I were to walk into your environment (e.g. your house, office, car, etc.) would I be inspired or feel like taking an entire bottle of Xanax?

The point here is this…

If you want to change you, you can hasten that process by changing your environment!

So there you go!

Three factors that will help you change the person that you are and become the person you want to be:

#1 Input

#2 Associations

#3 Environment

Oh, and now that you’ve finished this post, go read this one about building your Circle of Five!